Hi everyone, just wondering what do you all use for unattended remote desktop access software? After all these years on linux, this is really the ONLY thing I continue to struggle with. It's such a pain point, and I have yet to figure out something that consistently works. Here's my setup:

HTPC in living room: popos (gnome variant) running plex. I need to remote into (unattended) the desktop to open filezilla and download stuff.
Client pc in office: opensuse tumbleweed (kde plasma).

I have tried SO MANY different things, and they never work consistently over time (like for months on end). I've tried:

1- regular ol built in vnc (with open port) - over time this will stop working for what reason I do not know - just says "client refused connection" and a reboot will fix it

2- nomachine - randomly crashes over time, requires reboot to reinitialize server side software. Also struggles with UI scaling, sometimes making it almost impossible to use (things will be scaled to 4k resolution and scaling won't change)

3- teamviewer - constantly complained about using wayland, sometimes worked, sometimes not

4- rustdesk - honestly I can't remember why this didn't work, but I did try it and got nowhere

5- anydesk - tried this last year at the same time as rustdesk, also couldn't get working but I don't remember why.

I think that's it. So what do you all use?? Any suggestions would be appreciated!